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Sexual Assault Awareness Month: North Eastman Students Confused About Age of Consent

April is Sexual Assault Awareness month. Since the 1970s, organizations across North America and around the world have worked to raise awareness about the medical, legal, social, and emotional impacts of sexual assault.

Despite decades of activism, many misconceptions about sexual assault remain. Survivor’s Hope recently surveyed high school students in North Eastman found that students are unclear about the legal age of consent in Canada.

I had students throughout the North Eastman region complete a short quiz about sexual exploitation as a part of the Reaching Out Program for Survivor’s Hope. There was one question that seemed to stump the students and it was the question about the legal age of consent. More than half of the students did not know the right answer to that question.

It is very important that students know that the legal age of consent is 16. It is equally important that they know, their parents know, and the adults who work with youth know about the additional clauses regarding age of consent, or also referred to as age of protection.

The legal age of consent in Canada changed from 14 years of age to 16 in May 2008. However, the age of consent is 18 when the situation may be exploitative. This means that someone who is 16 or 17 cannot consent to sexual activity with anyone in a position of trust or authority, such as a teacher, coach, boss, or caretaker. Anyone under 18 is also not able to consent to being involved in pornography or prostitution in any way. All adults who engage minors in these activities are committing a criminal offence and should be reported to the RCMP.

There are also “peer group” exceptions in Canada’s criminal code. Someone who is 14 or 15 is legally able to consent to sexual activity with someone who is no more than 5 years older than the youth in question. Similarly, someone who is 12 or 13 is able to consent to sexual activity with someone no more than 2 years older than themselves. Adolescents cannot be charged for consensual sexual activity but any and all non-consensual contact is still illegal.

Canadian statistics on sexual assault and abuse show that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys experience unwanted sexual acts before the age of 18. The majority of these incidents happen during adolescence and 95% of victims know the person that abused them. All unwanted sexual contact is sexual assault, which is against the law regardless of the ages of the people involved.

Survivor’s Hope Crisis Centre offers immediate sexual assault crisis intervention through the Sexual Assault Recovery and Healing (SARAH) program. When someone experiences a sexual assault, a SARAH worker is available at any time of day or night to assist them at the RCMP detachment or at the hospital. Read more information about myths and facts about sexual assault.

Everyone should take a moment to educate themselves on what the criminal code has to say about this issue because we are all responsible to look out for the children and youth in our communities.

Book Review: Masterminds and Wingmen

masterminds and wingmen coverMasterminds and Wingmen: Helping our boys cope with schoolyard power, locker-room tests, girlfriends, and the new rules of boy world

By: Rosalind Wiseman

Masterminds and Wingmen, by Rosalind Wiseman, is a non-fiction book in a similar vein as her previous book, Queen Bees and Wannabees. While Queen Bees discussed the social dynamics of girls and young women, Masterminds and Wingmen tackles the inner thoughts of boys and young men. Wiseman challenges the notion that boys are inherently simpler or have “less drama” than girls and reveals through interviews and scenarios how much is going on in their lives.

Wiseman insightfully explains many common circumstances teenage boys experience and what that means for their friendships, their relationships with their parents, and their life at school. Rather than dismiss or reduce the challenges that boys face in their day to day life, Wiseman is encouraging and uplifting, writing from a place that speaks to young men on their level. This book is not a trite answer key that gives formulas, but offers some guidance for the people around the young men in question: their families, parents, and community.

The strongest aspect of the book is the interviews Wiseman has included with every topic she covers. Alongside each idea she broaches, statements from pre-adolescent to young adult men are presented – the concept in their own words. Not that Wiseman is not a worthy intelligence on her own, but the effort she’s taken to research and stay true to the common experience boys in North America face only makes the book stronger.

This book is aimed at primarily parents and teachers of teen boys, and likely the ones who will benefit most from it. However, it is an interesting read that exposes the environment in which men in North America grow up. Learning about how boys think and feel informs us in how they think and feel as adult men. Wiseman clearly states that this is not a huge secret to be kept from the young men in your life – rather the opposite. Several times she writes to suggest having a teen boy read it, to add to your experience. This is a valuable resource for everyone, for when we understand how young men are growing up, we all have the power to help change it for the better.

Masterminds and Wingmen is available in the SADI Resource section of the Pinawa Public Library.

Book review by Shannon.

Book Review: A House in the Sky

A House in the SkyA House in the Sky

By: Amanda Lindhout and Sara Corbett

Amanda Lindhout grew up reading National Geographic in the security of her bedroom to escape domestic violence in her home.  The glossy magazine photos launched her into far off lands to escape the violence close at hand.

Fifteen years later Amanda was off travelling the world to explore those National Geographic locations.  Her worldly adventures were financed by her waitressing job in Calgary.  She was in her early twenties, wandering the world six months of the year, soaking up the culture, and feeling invincible.   As Amanda sought greater adventures she traveled to less pedestrian travel locations and more often to conflict hot-spots.  Not wanting to break from her adventures to return to waitressing in Canada, Amanda worked to develop a career in journalism to support her adventurous lifestyle while on the road.  With little journalism experience or understanding of political terrorism she stepped into Somalia.

Just days after arriving in Somalia with her photojournalist companion, Nigel Brennan, Amanda and Nigel were kidnapped by jihadists and held for ransom.  Their captivity lasted 15 months.  The $3 million ransom was beyond possible for Amanda’s father living on disability and her mother working a minimum wage job.  Nigel’s family were middle class but “mortgaged to the eyeballs.”  Both the Canadian and Australian governments refused to assist with the ransom.  Amanda and Nigel believed they would likely die in Somali.

Fifteen months into captivity, a reduced ransom was paid and Amanda was released.  Amanda’s ordeal in Somalia was brutal.  Sara Corbet, from the New York Times Magazine, assisted Amanda in telling her story.   Amanda’s hope and strength held her together from one day to the next during captivity.  Her capacity to deal with nonstop cruelty surpassed the ability of most human beings.   Amanda’s hope and strength is inspirational and, for this reason, the book is worth the read.

Most amazing, however, is the story that continues after you close the book.  I couldn’t let her story go after the last page so jumped on Google to see what had become of this young woman.  I discovered Amanda Lindhout has returned to Somalia with her organization, The Global Enrichment Foundation, to advocate for improvements for young Somali women.

A House in the Sky is available through the Pinawa Public Library.

Book review by Holly.

Book Review: Wherever I Wind Up

 

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Wherever I Wind Up: My quest for truth, authenticity and the perfect knuckleball

By: R.A. Dickey with Wayne Coffey

R.A. Dickey is a knuckleball pitcher with the Toronto Blue Jays.  R.A. Dickey’s book Wherever I Wind Up is a memoir about life’s obstacles, and the place perseverance and faith play in moving forward.  As you follow R.A.’s story you catch yourself frequently asking, “Does this guy ever get a break?”

R.A. is challenged early by his mother’s alcoholism, his father’s absence, and his own experiences with childhood sexual abuse.  Against all odds, R.A. becomes a number one draft choice for the Texas Rangers.  Unfortunately, multiple issues bog down R.A.’s career until he is pushed to reinvent himself as a knuckleballer.

R.A.’s story is a very personal journey opened up for readers.  After years of struggling, R.A. eventually recognized that sexual abuse as a child severely derailed him and all the hiding and dodging had ruined his marriage and his career.  The conflict associated with needing help but not wanting to talk about the abuse clearly identified the issues most adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse struggle with.

As a baseball fan you will find this book is a stunning look at minor and major league baseball. There is, in fact, a lot of baseball talk and little about the abuse (but a lot about the consequences associated with abuse).  Those of us who aren’t baseball fans get the opportunity to learn a little something about baseball while enjoying the story of a man who approaches life with uncommon passion and drive. All readers, regardless of baseball experience, will recognize the role of faith, friends, and family in R.A.’s struggle to reclaim his dream.

Wherever I Wind Up is available through the Pinawa Public Library in the in SADI Resource section.

Book review by Holly

Book Review: I Am Malala

I Am MalalaI Am Malala: The girl who stood up for education and was shot by the Taliban

By: Malala Yousafzai with Christina Lamb

I Am Malala is the memoir of one of the world’s most famous teenagers even though she is not in films and does not have a new album coming out. Malala Yousafzai is one of few young people internationally renowned for her social activism.

I Am Malala was written after Malala was shot in the head by the Taliban on her way home from school. She was targeted because of her participation with her father in advocating for better access to education for girls in Pakistan. She currently lives with her family in Birmingham, UK which is where she was treated for her injuries.

The book provides a glimpse at the history of Pakistan which helps the reader to better understand the political situation in which Malala has lived. It can be easy to forget that there are individual people behind the headlines about the Taliban and drone attacks, but this book reminds the reader of the humans that are involved in the politics of the Middle East.

Pakistan was the world’s first Islamic nation, established in 1947. After years of political unrest and bouncing back and forth between democracy and dictatorship, Pakistan has become known for the presence of Taliban, particularly in the northern regions.

Malala grew up in Swat in northern Pakistan, a region she describes as a natural paradise. When Malala began attending school, she could walk to school freely and proudly. But over ten short years, she has had to change what she wears to school, hide her books, enter the school only through a private entrance, and eventually stop attending altogether.

To hear the story of Pakistan’s experience of the Taliban from this teenaged girl is at times infuriating. The stories of competing with her classmates and watching TV with her brothers show us that Malala is like millions of other children around the world. Why would such a girl seem to be a threat to an international terrorist group? However, Malala’s international blogging at age 11 and meeting with politicians to expand girls’ education also show us how exceptional she is. It also shows us the power of education which is precisely why the Taliban tried to kill Malala.

In Canada, it is easy to take public education for granted. It is not dangerous to promote education or attend school here. In fact, we’re more likely to complain about the systems we have! I Am Malala is a reminder to us all of the power of education and the important role it plays, not only in our country but in every country for every child. Because of the power of education, it is important that we support education for all whenever we get the chance.

I Am Malala appeals to many different readers. There is something here for history buffs, politicos, educators, social activists, teenagers, multi-culturalists, and anyone who enjoys a good memoir. The appeal of the book is broad which is very important because the message is one that all people need to hear and keep in mind. When Malala addressed the UN on her 16th birthday, July 12, 2013, she said “We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back.” While addressing the need for peace and education, I Am Malala emphasizes that gender equality and the equal empowerment of all women and men, boys and girls is essential for a better world. The solution for many social and political problems begins with education for all. “One child, one teacher, one pen and one book can change the world. Education is the only solution. Education first.”

I Am Malala is available through the Pinawa Public Library.